About Swinging
About Swinging
| GENERAL GUIDELINES |
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- You and your partner discuss swinging at length.
- Both you and your partner must want to swing, neither should be bullied into it.
- You and your partner should never attempt to break up a marriage.
- When a date is made, always keep up to it or else give ample time of notice for changing circumstances.
- It is important to keep the first meeting on a "no strings attached" basis.
- You and your partner should be prepared to swing if it is mutually agreed or to give an honest answer if something does not work out.
- It is reminder that you never under any circumstances exercise pressure on your partner to swing.
- It is suggested that you and your partner restrict discussions of swinging to known swingers and interested individuals seeking information.
- Be wise and protect the anonymity of other swingers by abstaining from unauthorized "name dropping."
- For the stake of other swingers, always maintain the highest standards of personal cleanliness and appearance.
- Be smart and not to engage in any unlawful activity that would harm the reputation of other swingers as a group.
- Always be friendly and warm with your swing partners. Be understanding that there is a type of emotional involvement, which is properly reserved for a spouse or "primary significant other."
- Remember to show respect for the personal attitudes and feelings of other swingers.
- Lastly, TRUST is the cornerstone of all relationships, don't break that.
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| TYPES OF SWINGERS |
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| VOYEURISM |
| Everybody has a different fantacy. A voyeurs fantacy is to watch other couples/people interacting sexually without being sexually involved at all. A voyeur might stay fully clothed or in the nude and just watch. |
| EXHIBITIONIST |
| An exhibitionist love to perform for others. Exhibitionists would normally partner up with voyeurs or just play on from of others. |
| EROTIC SWINGING |
| Erotic swinging is an excellent way to be introduced into the swinging scene. Erotic swingers don't want to interact sexually with other couples/people, they like to foreplay and/or sex with their own partners in the company of others, but no swapping or touching between couples are allowed. Some couples are more than happy to stay as erotic swingers. Remember, the lifestyle is about respect for others and their decisions. |
| SOFT SWINGING |
| Playing around. Soft swingers generally allow kissing, touching and all the pleasures of foreplay (sometimes including oral sex) with other partners, but no actual penetration. This allows for fun and fustration (LOL). |
| FULL SWINGING |
| Partners swap and have sex in the same room, or bed. This includes orgies and is great for exhibitionists and voyeurs, who can show off or just enjoy watching their partner play. Some people find Full Swap swinging allows for total release of the sexual desires and fantasies. It is not for the jealous or the shy! |
| CLOSED SWINGING |
| Partners swap, but have sex in separate rooms. Closed swinging allows for a more intimate experience. Some people feel it allows them more freedom to explore and fewer interruptions of their enjoyment. Be very sure that you feel comfortable in your relationship before taking this step. |
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| GENERAL SWINGING RULES |
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- Woman rules, meaning woman will approach you. Men are not allowed to approach woman or couples.
- NO means NO !!!! Always!!!!!!
- Safe sex is the only sex!
- This is about having fun, nothing more.
- Swinging can enhance a strong, honest, healthy relationship. It will not salvage a shaky marriage, but destroy it.
- Your primary concern - and the person you leave with - is your primary partner.
- Build friendships. You don't have to play with someone for them to be your friend, and having lifestyle friends can be a great support system.
- There is nothing less attractive than a drunk or spaced-out couple.
- Take it slow. It's not a race, but a journey.
- Go with the flow. If things don't seem to be working out one evening, don't force it. After all, if you don't enjoy their company, do you really want to have sex with them anyway?
- Be honest. If you meet a couple and things don't click, say something. We are all adults and can handle the truth. If they can't, you are better off finding out early anyway.
- Be respectful. Pushy people are the biggest turn-off.
- Talk to your partner about every possible scenario. Sooner or later, you will find yourself in it. ( Example - you are not having fun, while your spouse is having a great time. What would you like the other to do - stop, leave the room and allow the others to continue, etc.).
- Be respectful of others privacy. The guys at work might think you are a stud because you swing, but pointing out another swinging couple to them is wrong.
- Remember your fantasy is not everyone else's fantasy.
- Don't forget who you're doing it for: It's for you and your partner.
- Look after yourself and others.
- Common decency applies.
- If you are unsure about anything at all, feel free to ask...
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| ETIQUETTE |
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The 'prime directive' in swinging is "no means no".
This means that rejection of a sexual advance does not require justification and must always be respected.
Respect for one's play partners is often a hallmark of swinging activity, and violation of this directive can result in immediate expulsion.
It is regarded as impolite to touch without asking, gently but firmly removing a touching hand are widely regarded as polite non-verbal communication in the playroom context.
Most swingers who participate in penetrative sex whilst swinging are strict about condom usage, including insisting on changing condoms between partners.
However, some members of the swinging community do engage in unprotected sex, in a practice that is commonly known as barebacking.
When unsure, it is considered a polite necessity to establish these ground rules before becoming sexually involved. |
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